Getting your partner to talk about planning seems a lot, right? Although for you, it’s just the right opposite! We all go through it and we know it’s just not other genders area of interest. NOTE: it’s definitely not the love that has faded (Don’t Ever Think That Way)! So, there should be a way for him to make planning a joint endeavor?
Nothing is impossible! Right? There’s more to do on wedding than say, it includes: design, décor, small details, and more. You might even feel that the bulk of planning is falling apart due to improper participation of your partner. Take this venture, he or she will end up loving the process – as much as you did. Let’s see how:
Don’t Force the Matter – This approach matters in every aspect of life. Your partner might not be into any sort of party planning at all, and that’s okay. Every individual is built differently, as a matter of fact; they just don’t understand why it’s necessary to plan weddings month in advance. So, lecturing the person on why and how the entire prep work will help and be important, will never get him through it.
Either case, even if you put your foot down on the issue, it will not force him to be of assistance. Just be normal about the process and every other aspect of life. Your partner will pick the pace and will start being a part of your happenings. Let it work its way out!
Keep it Positive – To be at the same level as your partner it’s important to adapt to your partners exasperated view of planning. If somehow the planning turns into a negative experience, it will confirm the inner fears about this or any other process under discussion. Let things stay excited and upbeat, whether it includes this days planning or another days. Once your partner sees the excitement and happiness in you, he or she will eventually fall a prey to the joy you’re experiencing. It’s contagious!
Keep the Wedding-Talk to the Point – Only focus on tasks and concerns when it needs to be handled. Your stress is certain, about any specific aspect or planning or a process, venting to your partner months before the time can kill the entire moment. However, keep your stress checked; this is for your own good and of course for your partners.
Whenever you have the planning session together, stay focused on the agenda of tackling the matters that need your attention. Otherwise, the talk of continuous planning will seem like a waste of time for you and him. Keeping yourself present and ready will avoid all the wedding related unnecessary fights. You will always have a win-win situation.
Avoid Questions that Bother His Interest – If your partner is least interested in flowers than avoid asking for his or her opinion about them. Your partner might not have a clue about the type of flowers and the bouquet type etc. He or she might not care for garden roses or ranunculus. Let it be legitimate, something you find it amusing might just be the opposite for other person. It is totally fine!
Give Ownership to Your Partner about the Things He Cares for- There’s definitely more to do, it can be music, dessert, or anything – let your partner have the reins to do it his way. And do support the choice and idea presented, despite the difference of taste. See, the wedding is about you and him; it does not just involve you. Letting him handle a task and you handle another is an amazing practice for the entire life. Which the wedding is about, right?
And if you find yourself stuck anywhere, wedding planner such as Let’s Celebrate Events knows how to do the drill. There are people who love doing what they do, that’s what they do best, just like your partners choice –so let the show handlers keep it together and perfect!
