In a stressful era, where everybody is suffering from mental concerns, it’s no surprise that your child can be the victim of it. Although to parents they seem carefree, they do suffer mental stress, especially from the school.
The school homework, test sheets, assignment, school activities, and bullying make them feel strained.
Since kids need time to express themselves, look for their behavior, and you will get signs of stress. You perhaps notice:
- Your kid is showing inflexible and uncooperative behavior
- He/she is unable to maintain eye contact
- They become clingy
- He is unfocused and many more
So, if you see your kid not coming home chattering about his happy school day, he is in stress. Have a look at different ways you can help:
Talk and Listen:
Is your kid avoiding you? Call them and open the lines of communication. Ask them questions about his school day or challenges he faced during the day. Talk them nicely to a friend and make them feel comfortable.
Try to figure about what’s bothering them and once you are into the problem, offer them help to solve the problem of their own. Show some interest in their problem and ask with openness and attentively. Avoid blaming, lecturing, judging; you want to know your child’s feeling not putting your decision on them.
Many child portals, as well as child counseling services, also suggest parents to be a good listener, instead of being a commentator. It will not only them feel protected but will also make your child open to you.
Telling your child to do things swiftly beforehand will also make them feel stressed. Don’t do that! Give them enough time and let them do things on their own time. Of course, you don’t want to child to become lazy, nagging them every time to rush for things will not make them relax.
Speak Out Loud:
Speak directly if you notice that something is bothering your child. Speak out about the behavior that you are noticing. Be sympathetic and show concern that you understand the reason. Support them and help them, if needed.
Limit The Things That Are Bothering Them:
If there’s anything specific that is causing stress, limit them out. For instance, if there’s too much homework, activities, tests that are making your child tensed, keep few things on hold and ask them to do things they would love. This will help your child retain energy for left-out work.
Don’t reprimand your kid for unnecessary things; this will make them feel lonely and more tensed. Offer them help and support, and handle things patiently. Focus on helping them instead of putting them in the problem. This will not only bring your child close to you but will also make them learn how to tackle the future ups and downs.
Arguing over things and making them realize that they have now grown up is not at all going to help. It will only bring them to dark, and they will start feeling lonely and tensed. Try to handle things maturely, after all; you were in the same position in your childhood.